Am I to blame for a relationship that just ended?

First, let me say I am sorry for your loss, I know how hard that can be. Second, if a man cared for you he would be there for you at a time when your world was falling apart. He obviously can't deal with death and that is a part of life, it is going to happen to all of us someday. All he had to do was show a little compion and be by your side and just be with you for support. Since he couldn't bring hisself to do that, why should you feel guilty for the break up? You did nothing wrong, that was his doing. If he cared for you and your family he would have defitely been there. He needs to grow up and start thinking of others instead of just himself. If you really care for him, and I think you do, stay away from him for awhile, he needs to grow up. Evidently he felt too ashamed to face you and that is why he texted you to break it off. It is not you sweetie, you didn't do anything wrong, he just needs time to grow up and realize that other people have feelings too, not just him. Maybe in time he will change, take this time to get your life back on track and maybe you will be able to work things out later if you still want too. God Bless!