My fiance was/is GAY, and i just found out?

Hi Amritah: My response is two fold. Gay and/or biual males are human beings as well. The fact that your fiance was or now is has no bearing on his ability to be able to show you love anymore than it does for a male who has never been with another male. It seems to me from the onset that you have serious trust issues, especially since you say that your way of discovering this information came as a result of your reading his emails. Snooping and sneaking around to collect information is just as unhealthy as the person who is doing the cheating. I would suggest the following: First, you owe him an apology for snooping through his email. Secondly, after bringing the issue to him, if he admits to it and asks for your forgiveness and/or apologizes that is a relationship worth holding onto. A man willing to acknowledge his wrong will also work towards change. We are all prone towards making bad decisions. Also it's important to note at this point that he would be apologizing for the act of cheating and not for being the person he IS (i.e, gay, biual, etc). If he does not acknowledge the wrong and if he does not apologize, then more than likely he has not learned his lesson and may repeat it again. Society is so quick to offer you the advice of leaving a significant other because people have become accustomed to running from situations versus staying to work it out. I have personally counseled couples who have undergone the same situation and they have gone on to live very productive lives. It hurts, emotions are real, but you can and will get through it. Good Luck. Food for Thought!